Friday, April 29, 2016

Permission or Encouragement

I wrote this little post back in January about how I squashed my husband's dream.  I got a lot of response on that one.  (And by response, I mean several people went out of their way to tell me they appreciated it--people I didn't even know read my blog--which was really cool.) I always enjoy feedback, so I want to delve a little deeper into this subject because it seemed to touch a nerve.

I want to be clear on something.  I didn't give my husband permission to leave his job last year.  He wasn't asking for permission from me, his wife.  He asked my opinion.  He asked for my input.  But more than anything else, he asked for my support...he wanted my encouragement.  For me to encourage my husband is not the same thing as giving him permission.  Permission implies that I have control over the head of my household.  Permission implies that I rule over my husband.  I don't. While I won't argue that I am directionally gifted, at times (a.k.a. "bossy"), the final decision--and accountability--rest on my husband.

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To encourage him, though, is another animal entirely.  To encourage him gives him confidence.  To encourage him frees his mind to know that he is not creating conflict in his home while he pursues his dream.  To encourage my husband empowers him to do what he needs to do to build his business.  To encourage him allows him the freedom to grow and learn.  I know this because that's what it does for me when he encourages me.

How are you supporting your spouse today?

Make it a beautiful day, friends.

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