You might say it's a glass half empty or glass half full kind of question: Do you really need to know everything that's wrong with you in order to be able to fix it? Nope. We all know we have things wrong with us. It's just the world in which we live. A friend and I were talking yesterday as she helped me with some work around our house. She'd recently done some evaluation with one of her fabulous kiddos to help decide if they wanted to do additional training with her. We were talking about it because we'd been in the exact same situation with our daughter.
The question came up because she didn't know whether she should go over the specifics with her child. Does her child need to know what is "wrong" with her? The brief answer is no. There are several reasons why I believe that. First of all, being a pre-teen kid is hard enough without thinking there is something intrinsically wrong with you. Even when you have a great and supportive family and encouraging friends, we still create imagined and real standards in our mind that no one can live up to. Why add to that? As mature adults, we sometimes have a hard time swallowing a pill that we're not doing something right or well. There are times when we do need to get extra instruction or knowledge...and take it with some humility.
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Second, in this type of situation, the kiddo already knows that they struggle. My daughter did. She knew some things were harder for her than for other kids. We had taken several steps to try to help, but nothing completely filled in the blanks for her--until we dug a little deeper and did brain training with her. With the training, she was finally able to use new tools to figure out some things that were not initially strengths for her...and now she's growing in those areas! Her growth wasn't predicated on her knowing specifically what she was having struggles with. She figured out some of the those issues as they became non-issues, but she didn't have to know them to begin.
All this is to say that we don't have to know everything that is wrong in order to move forward. We just need a desire to grow. What can you make into a strength today?
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