Alone together. That's how I heard one person describe our culture of social media. We sit alone on our couch looking at other peoples' posts on social media. The posts are the highlight reel. It's not that they are bad things we post...it's just not all the things.
I don't believe we should air our "dirty laundry" on social media. We've all seen the posts that are vague and specifically angry. Um. Be a grown up and go talk to that person. Don't post it on facebook. But that's not where I'm going today. I found out last weekend that a couple I thought I knew is getting divorced. Apparently, I wasn't the only one surprised by this announcement. Someone else commented that they had no idea the couple was having trouble.
"They didn't want to air their dirty laundry," was the reply.
While I don't think it's everyone's business if someone is having trouble in their marriage, it's my hope and prayer that you have someone in your life that you can talk to and have that real conversation:
"I'm having a really hard time in my marriage right now with ___." Fill in the blank. Anything, on any given day can be really hard when you are married.
I have a wonderful husband, but there are still times that I want to choke him with my bare hands. At that point, I need a real friend to tell me that they are rooting for my marriage...not what a jerk my husband is and that I should leave him. Divorce is not easier, friends. That is the lie the world tries to tell you. That is the lie Satan whispers in your ear. Marriage is not always sunshine and roses. It's work...and it's a choice.
If you are the one struggling, please reach out to someone. There are so many resources available. You are not alone. If you don't know anyone you think will be on the side of your marriage, please message me. I will pray for you. (Here is one resource you can look into.) If you are in a real physically or emotionally abusive relationship, that is another matter entirely. You need help, too, and know that is not okay. Please, get outside help.
We all want our happily ever after. Sometimes we need to roll up our sleeves and work for it.
Make it a beautiful day, friends.
I'm sad for the heavy topic today. This has been weighing on my heart. After you get done pondering the current state of your relationship, visit me on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook for some light hearted decorating fun. If you are looking for some color change up in your home or business, stop by www.JensWallsTalk.com for ideas and consult information. Thanks for sharing. You don't know who might need to read this today.